Expectations and Prayer for a Husband Changing Hearts

Unspoken Expectations: Changing My Husband’s Heart

“Then it happened when he turned his back to leave Samuel, God changed his heart; and all those signs came about on that day.”1 Samuel 10:9

Sunday mornings are probably my favorite around here.

Usually I’ve had the opportunity to rest a bit the day before so some Sundays I wake up feeling slightly rested in spite of chronic pain and fatigue. We get up a little earlier then we need so that we can get ready for our Lord’s special day as calmly as possible. Sometimes we play music in the kitchen via iPhone-in-bowl that fills our tiny home.

My wonderful hubby brings me a pre-coffee cup of coffee to the bathroom to sip while I get ready in order that I might face humanity kindly.  We walk hand in hand to our tiny gray V-4 and right when we hit the onramp “God of Heaven” fills our car and hearts with promises.

We finally make our way to our seats next to our people and for the 100th time I thank God that our church has these very comfortable seats instead of pews that can be distractingly painful.

Of course our lives don’t always seem this calm and predictable. As we move toward a big life change our personalities have clashed as of late. I want to know every detail and have it on a sticky note somewhere. I want to plan and actively move toward it. I am impulsive and determined. My dear husband is cautious and detail-oriented.

I’m a dreamer. He’s a realist.

Lazada PhilippinesAs luck would have it this particular Sunday our wise Pastor was speaking on the importance of doing the Lord’s work. Not just doing it but having a plan, moving towards it and stepping out in faith. I kept staring at my dear man hoping he would notice my gaze.

“If only I could see inside his head! “

“He better be listening! This is what he needs to hear!”

I wanted to poke him with my self-righteous elbow and say, “See! I was right!”

Thankfully he did not notice my glare or my telepathic nudging. However, later that evening he came to me and mentioned how the service had impacted his heart! I was excited to finally be on the same page… but also instantly convicted. How foolish of me to try and play God. How dare I presume I know what he needs and doesn’t need!

It is only God who can handle my unspoken expectations and bring about a changed heart. NOT a nagging, nudging wife.

See, I think I have discovered the most wonderful part of life as a wife– I get a front row seat to watch my man become more and more a man of God.

What a sacred lovely dance. HE orders the steps and he follows. Act after act until in the end his performance is judged as well done by a good and faithful servant.

I think that is probably, definitely the most wonderful part of marriage. 

Prayer for a HuLazada Philippinessband

Father, give my husband the mind of Christ, saturate it with godly wisdom. Help him to take every thought captive that is not in obedience to Your Word, and in so doing protect him from pride and temptation. (1 Corinthians 2:16, 2 Corinthians 10:5)

Father, open the eyes of my husband’s heart to understand Your Word, so that he won’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of his mind so that he may know Your good, acceptable and perfect will for his life and our marriage. (Romans 12:2)

Father, help my husband to trust in You with all his heart, not depending on his own understanding, but acknowledging You in all his ways, so he knows what direction our family should take. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

Heather Jones is a woman of God, a wife, teacher, and foster mom. You can follow her writing at Beakers and Bach.

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