Marriage can be a satiating, beautiful thing. It can also be draining and challenging. Because it is a dynamic, living, and breathing bond that requires life-sustaining faith from the Holy Spirit just as a natural body needs water.
Notice that I added life-sustaining to the word faith above. Our natural faith is necessary and sufficiently effective to enable us to live day in, day out in our marriage, but it takes more to save a crumbling marriage. It takes a special gift from God – a saving faith – to do that.
Luke says in 17:6, “If you had faith even like a grain of mustard seed, you could say to this mulberry tree, be pulled up by the roots, and be planted in the sea, and it would obey you.”
Have you ever seen a mulberry tree?
A mulberry tree, depending on its specie, can grow to be anywhere from 30 to 80 feet in size. It has thick branches and a trunk that can grow up to about 5 to 7 feet in circumference or bigger. The tree can branch out to be as wide as some homes.
Like many others, growing up I always thought the mulberry to be a small bush because of a song I used to sing. You might remember it too. It went “Here we go ‘round the mulberry bush.” But, most of the mulberry species are actually trees and a very massive one. Bushes tend to be easy to uproot, but a tree and a mulberry one at that… is just way too impossible by bare hands.
You see, Luke was referring to an awesome kind of faith. A saving one! A kind of faith that gives power, might, and strength to uproot a mulberry tree. Such is what it can do to a solid trunk of agony in your marriage. No more bush thinking here. Luke suggests that you are able to clean up the nastiest, stickiest gunk that has built up between you and your spouse through a saving faith.
Married life is in the hands of God like a bow and arrow in the hands of an archer. When you marry with faith in God, you’re actually saying that you trust Him that your husband, whom He brought to you is truly His best for you. Marriage is the paragon of faith from the very start to end, and while our logic and reasoning are necessary for effective problem solving, faith helps us to remember that we are not the archer.
A saving faith requires trusting God’s promises with reckless, fearless abandon.
Faith is a powerful tool for every Christian couple, but in order for it to work to it’s potential, you must not only believe in God, but believe in yourself through Him. When we exercise our faith in this manner, we gain the power to turn any situation around.
“I assure you, most solemnly I tell you, if anyone steadfastly believes in Me, he will himself be able to do the things that I do; and he will do even greater things than these, because I go to the Father.” – John 14:12
Jesus performed many miracles during his time on Earth, but the primary thing He did was that He changed people’s lives. Christ did everything for the sake of glorifying the Father through life changing experiences. Everyone He came into contact with was never the same again. Your situation is no different. Never forget how much He loves you and wants to work miracles in your marriage where there seems a lack.
It might not be instantaneous or exactly how you want things, but know that He is sovereign and is in control. Faith works with patience. The more we intentionally go straight to God, and turn away from the urge of trying to figure out solutions on our own; the more we invite God to be at the center of our marriage and do what ONLY He can do. A miracle.
” I am the Lord, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” – Jeremiah 32:27
It’s also easier to stop something from happening in the first place than to pray for grace after it has happened. God tasks husbands and wives to cover each other through unceasing prayer. Your husband goes through a spiritual battle daily. The enemy shoots big guns at him every day. You have been chosen to stand in the gap. It’s hard to expect grace from the Lord if you do not have faith and did not put the Lord first in your life. Strengthen your faith and cover your husband in prayers every single day– before he goes to work, before he leaves your house.
“Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.” – Proverbs 31:23
Think about how you can use your faith and the strength that lies in it to manifest the power of God in your marriage today. He wants your marriage to be transformed and restored back to its purity at the altar, before sin became evident in your relationship. Make the necessary changes to yourself and start with having as much belief in yourself as you have faith. Allow both to grow within you. By doing so, you’ll see the beauty of marriage multiplied in ways you never imagined possible.
And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. – Ephesians 3:14–19
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